The Challenge of Quality Time

It’s been too long! Shameful!
I want to write about spending quality time with your children. We are all trying to accomplish this one way or another, some have it easier than others but at the end of the day, it’s about juggling, no matter who you are or where you come from.
I have an interesting way achieving this and it doesn’t involve parks, ice creams, paints or even leaving the house.
As some of you may already know, Jack spends every Thursday night at his Granny and Grandad’s house. This is all well and good, it’s wonderful for him and great for us but what I have failed to mention up until now is how delightful it is, not feel guilty about lavishing all your attention on one of your children and how fulfilling and satisfying it is for them to have both of you all to themselves. On Thursdays its just Chris and me with Lucy in between us. She gets away with a little more than usual, she has a long bath with her mum and plays rough with her Dad, she cuddles us on the couch in front of the TV and lands up going to bed a bit later than usual. She has tea in bed with her mum on a Friday morning whilst gently waking up her dad so they can have a shower together before getting ready for school, all the while, chit-chattering like a little bird eith a very captive audience. Basically, she gets to have all the advantages of being a single child and none of the disadvantages because its only one night. Since realizing this, we have started encouraging Lucy to spend Tuesday nights with her Ganna (my mum) so we can have Jack all to ourselves for a Thursday night/ Wednesday morning. I really think this is such a great idea, especially for families where both parents are busy during the day and evening time is family time. It reduces the amount of sibling rivalry and competition for attention and I genuinely believe it make for a more content household. They miss each other, you can tell by the way they greet each other the next day after school, it is too dear for words. It is eye-wateringly gratifying when your children show affection for each other openly like that.
If you have more than one child, please try this, the benefits are listed longer than my arm. If you have only the one child, the benefits to your marriage/relationship list longer still.
Happy cuddling!

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5 thoughts on “The Challenge of Quality Time

  1. Emily During says:

    That is a really wonderful idea. It makes me wish, for about the millionth time today, that we had some family in the vicinity.

    • Thanks for the comment Emily. I have to admit, for us, it’s one of the advantages of living in Johannesburg. I often dream about moving to Durban or imagine life out in the sticks but not having family around causes me to back up a little. Not sure how old your kids are but would close friends once in a while be an option, or an independent weekend away with family? J&L, often stay with friends, albeit not every week. Lets not forget though, living close to family also has its own challenges!

  2. Leonie says:

    OMG Breene that sounds Devine! Definitely something to aspire to. Love it!

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